Visiting the home you lived in as a kid sounds like an exciting adventure.
In fact, you’ve probably wondered what it would feel like to sneak peak inside after so many years have passed.
For some, it’s to see what changes were made but for others it’s a thirst to reconnect to the past albeit good or bad.
It could also be a yearning for closure from a traumatic experience or fond memories that reawakens the soul.
So what happens when the present does not reconcile with the past?
If you’re lucky the current owners are willing to let you take a stroll down memory lane, great.
But what happens when you enter the home and your favorite room, perhaps the built ins, or better yet the walls are no longer there? It can be very psychologically damaging.
It’s amazing what people hold on to without realizing it. And while physically you’ve moved on, mentally you think the house still belongs to you.
And that could leave you feeling distraught and sometimes angry about how your life memories are “discarded” without care.
What about the current owners …
We often think about what the former owners’ feelings are but often the current owners may have just as much anxiety letting you into their home.
People yearn for approval when they are proud of their accomplishments and uncertainty can creep in if they think the former occupants are there to reclaim memories in a place they have created new ones in.
Would you revisit your childhood home?
I for one have driven by my childhood home of 30 years and had fond memories. I have yet stop and request a visit inside. Perhaps, one day I will.
“When you finally go back to your old home, you find it wasn’t the old home you missed but your childhood” … Sam Ewing
Also in this edition of Talking Stoops
- Would you live here in Crown Heights? [click here to read]
- Thinking about moving back to your hometown? [click here to read]